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You probably might have landed here and reading this because a women-your friend, colleague ,partner or someone near and dear had been a victim of this heinous activity, or you in the male chauvinist society that rules the majority of this planet have kept the ray of humanity still alive.

Every day we get to hear such incidents, where a women directly or indirectly had been a victim of sexual assault; molested, mistreated, raped or beaten down just to keep her voice oppressed. Have you ever imagined what if this happens to someone close to you??? What if someday a sexual assault victim seeks your help????

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By following some basic steps you can not only help such person but also comfort her in such worse situation. They should feel that they are not alone in the fight for justice.

  • Medical attention (As soon as possible)

Such situations are worse of the worse a girl can imagine of, and at such times inform the emergency service and tell them about the situation. A trained professional’s supervision, who have expertise in comforting the victim, and a medical examination as soon as possible are the foremost things that should be taken care off. Prior to the medical check the victim should not  eat, drink, or shower.

 

  • Keep the evidence safe and intact

Collect all the evidence you can, especially the clothes the victim had been wearing at the moment of the crime. Everything at the spot of crime is of immense importance for the police as it makes the investigation easier. Keep the evidence in a poly bag and produce them to the police while lodging a complaint.

 

  • Always be there for your friend

Comforting the victim of sexual assault is always given a top priority but there are certain things that should be taken care of, because at such time every word counts. Never say that “I understand what you are going through” because you seriously do not. Keep yourself in her shoe. Don’t blame anything on the victim. Be supportive and keep faith in every word spoken by her. You might even get a late night call, talk to her to make her feel better.

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  • Help her in her recovery period

Be a support for your friend until she is completely out of it. Talk to her as often as you can. Make her feel she is not alone and you will always be there for her no matter what happens. Moral presence is always that boosts a victim’s faith in people. Try to keep her mind focused on her recovery out of this situation.

 

  • Ensure your and your friend’s safety

There is a good probability that the culprit will come after the victim and even you. He will go to any extents to save himself from the law. Make sure your friend is safe wherever she is and be alert about your safety also.

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  • Watch your friend’ action and keep her distracted

Keep your friend as much distracted as you can. Don’t over talk about the incident. Talk about it only to the extent to which it is necessary. Sexual assault victim’s also show suicidal tendencies and try to cause harm to themselves. Watch over it and keep them involved in things as much as you can.

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  • Be cautious with physical interaction

Physical interaction with the victim might make her feel uncomfortable, so be cautious regarding them. Hugging or kissing a victim too much often will surely cause discomfort for her. Ask whether she is fine with it or not.

 

A victim of sexual assault never wants any such thing in her life. Arousal on sexual interactions is a common thing because that is something the human body is coded with. You can’t blame the victim, she never wanted it; sometimes you are helpless when it comes to biological interactions. Always justify the saying, A FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND INDEED.

 

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Since the birth of the human race the attraction towards the opposite sexes has been a natural phenomenon and some way or the other this attraction is a part of our human growth cycle. Women being the water sign, are marked by traits that men have to take special care of in order to lure her and keep a level of understanding with. A time went by the concept of dating was adapted the society and now is regarded as the first step of interaction between the two gender’s.

A  Women at her first date have many expectations from the guy she is going to date and always want it to be a quality time, well spent with a deserving person. There is a long list of things to be kept in mind to make your date memorable, to shorten it up below are some points that have to be taken special care of.

 

  • Keep your cell phone away

This goes for both men and women that over involvement with your cell phone is a very annoying habit, as it is an indicator of your non-interest in the person you are with. So it advised to keep you phone away and pay attention the person with you.

 

 

  •  Be funny but not too much of it

              Having a good sense of humor is always regarded as a plus point by a female as they love the men who make them laugh. But cracking too much jokes on a date might portray a false image of you, a women always want her guy to be good humored as well as sensible.

 

 

 

  •  Be well mannered

              A well mannered behavior is regarded as the traits of a gentleman. On a date make sure you open the gate, draw the chair for her and treat her the way she loves it the most. Your manners always add up valuable points in you tally and are a trait that should be taken care of everywhere you go because women love this quality in male’s.fancy-date-main

 

 

 

  •  Always be on time, rather be 5 minutes early

Be five minutes early at the location of your date as it provides you ample time to find a suitable place for yourself. Never make a girl wait for you on a date, be 5 minutes early at her place if you are supposed to pick her up.  Your presence before her will not only make her feel special but will also help you get rid for the anxiety and the nervousness.

 

 

  • Dress up carefully as per the occasion

Being a male you will always dress to impress, but you can’t always wear your Armani’s everywhere. If you’re going to an opera then to a plush restaurant, you should wear a tux; but don’t think of it if you are going for a baseball game or to a dive bar. Even if you are rushing up from your work, put away that jacket and loosen up your tie. Going to a Mc Donald’s then a sweatshirt will do, but for a place above it a pair of formals will always keep you on safer side. She should know that you have made up efforts to dress up, for this date. ALWAYS KEEP IN MIND, don’t keep your hair messed up, a well groomed man always symbolizes handsomeness.

 

 

  •  Keep your conversation pleasant

While on a date the more you get to know each other, the better it is for both of you. Keep a 1:1 conversation with each other, neither of you should be talking too much; but make sure you talk. Never mention your exes and she should never feel that you are trying to be superior over her. Try to explore her, her likes and dislikes and what sort of person she is.

 

 

In  the end to some up, keep things slow and according to her; say you’re your goodbyes by a kiss on her forehead and wait for your next date as it will make things more interesting the next time you meet. And make sure you follow these points on your further dates too.

 

 

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Women bear responsibilities in every sphere of their age, be it as a daughter, as a wife as a mother, an employee and any other form or sphere one can think of. With these responsibilities come different forms of disease and ailments. They face stress and other form of problems, keeping aside the menstrual pain. Being the dominated gender in various countries across the globe, they face oppression and malnutrition due to which many times their pain is undermined or they do not pay attention to it themselves leading to various health issues. Following are the most common women health issues faced by them across the globe.

 

 

Cancer

Being one of the foremost problems faced by mankind, suffering from cancer is found the most in women. Breast, lung, genital cancer and many of the forms of cancer; women suffer the most from them. Breast Cancer is the most common out of all the types, following lung cancer as the cause of death in women. The increasing cases of cancer have now made women more aware about the problem but still majority are misinformed and regard cancer as their death sentence. According to WHO, the major causes of breast cancer include obesity, consumption of alcohol, abnormal breast biopsy, and genetic history of the disease in a family. The disease can easily be cured, but we need to educate ourselves more about it and should consult a doctor if in doubt.

 

Heart Disease

The major killer for both the gender, it is responsible behind 28% female death and a major women health issue. Due to heart diseases women die at an early stage, and hence have decreased the life expectancy figures in women in the society. Like that of cancer, heart problems in women also go under diagnosed or get avoided as they are typical and are mistaken to be of any other problem, which after certain point of time become incurable. The major reasons behind heart diseases include; blood pressure, blood cholesterol , obesity, diabetes and smoking. Women with a family history of any such disease are more prone to it.

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Osteoporosis

Osteoporosis or bent backbone considered to be a mark of old age is more a disease and is caused majorly due to habits developed by women. As the body build most of its bone mass by the age of 30 and hence habits, up till that age span are the major cause of this disease . The cure to it are easy and include; proper body posture, adequate calcium and Vitamin D consumption, maintaining the body mass index, and as in every case a proper diet.

 

Depression
Women being the more common target of this disease, the number of women affected by depression is almost double compared to that of men. Being connected more to the society and the family as compared to their male counterparts women are the softer gender, and hence easily affected mentally by such issues. It is the root cause of nervous breakdown and is observed in women after failed pregnancy or related activities that are closer to them emotionally. Other causes of depression in women include history of the disease in family and the individual, Martial problems, drug abuse, sexual abuse and various disorders.

 

Premature Pregnancy

Women in many countries get pregnant at an age when conceiving a baby is dangerous for them; but due to lack of information, casual approach by their families and sometimes the social pressure to give birth to a boy in order to make sure the family tree continues, they have to conceive a baby. According to medical surveys conceiving baby at an early stage makes a female physically and mentally more prone to other forms of health issues. Giving birth to a baby no doubt is considered as the best experience for a lady, but at a premature age it needs more physical strength as the body is unable to deal with the pain and the recovery time span is more.

 

The above are some of the women health issues out of great number of them. Common cure for all of them are information and education about such issues, care and attention towards women as they are a pivot of every family and without them our life is unimaginable.

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